I gave up my whole life to fit into my ex's It happened slowly. His friends became the only people I saw. His flat, his local pub, his football team I never cared about. I stopped going to my pottery class maybe three months in because the timing never worked for him. I told myself it was fine. I was fine.
When it happened: 30-39 #dating #divorce #boundaries I thought merging into someone was closeness. It isn't really. You just get smaller. Rebuilding from nothing in your mid thirties is its own specific kind of embarrassing and hard.
HO HNDSYT Original Jul 22, 2026
Family I picked a side in my parents' divorce and lost 20 years with my dad Mum was a mess after he left. She was right there in front of me and he was across town in some flat I'd only been to twice. I didn't decide anything really. I just stopped going. He rang a few times and then he didn't.
When it happened: 40-49 #divorce #expectations The version of events I had at fifteen was mostly hers. I didn't know that then. I'm not sure it changes much now.